"Family Life"
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· 5 viewsElder Qualifications progressing to his family life and leadership
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How much do you “love” this book? (hold up my Bible) - there are 168 hrs in a week, let’s assume you sleep 8 hrs per night that is 56 in a week, leaving a remaining balance of 112. Let’s assume you work 40 hrs a week that leavings 72 hours. How much time do did you spend in this book?
How do you do at “Management?”
Store manager
Sales manager
Managers of a farm (livestock)
Managing a budget
A Church will only go as far as its leadership -
As we look to our text this morning we are going to focus in on verses 4 and 5 where will be learning about the “qualifications of the overseers (elder) as it relates to his family.”
Interrogative question - What does your “family life” portray?
Qualifications pinpoints 4 areas of his life -
Personal Life - vs. 2-3
Family Life - vs. 4-5
Church Life - vs. 6
Community Life - vs. 7
“Must be” - vs. 2, 4, 8, and 12 - this is important
In the context it says manages his own “household” - how does this affect Titus 2:5 “to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.”
1. The Call to Management - vs. 4
1. The Call to Management - vs. 4
“one who manages” - verb, present tense
Sense: to lead (authority) - to be in charge of -
This is a military term - one who manages his battalion - usually between 300 and 1000 soldiers
1 timothy 3:4 “He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity”
1 timothy 3:5 “(but if a man does not know how to manage his own household, how will he take care of the church of God?),”
1 timothy 3:12 “Deacons must be husbands of only one wife, and good managers of their children and their own households.”
Romans 12:8 “or he who exhorts, in his exhortation; he who gives, with liberality; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy, with cheerfulness.”
1 Thessalonians 5:12 “But we request of you, brethren, that you appreciate those who diligently labor among you, and have charge over you in the Lord and give you instruction,”
1 Timothy 5:17 “The elders who rule well are to be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who work hard at preaching and teaching.”
How do we (men) manage our families? (this is not black and white rather grey)
Guard against legalism -
Guard against neglect -
Notice 1 Timothy 2:15 “But women will be preserved through the bearing of children if they continue in faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint.”
Titus 2:3-5 “Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.”
This is a team effort as a married couple - Neither is able to biblically void themselves from this call to management
Ephesians 4:20–32 “But you did not learn Christ in this way, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught in Him, just as truth is in Jesus, that, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth. Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth each one of you with his neighbor, for we are members of one another. Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity. He who steals must steal no longer; but rather he must labor, performing with his own hands what is good, so that he will have something to share with one who has need. Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to…”
Philippians 2:2-8 “make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.”
proverbs 23:13-14 “Do not hold back discipline from the child, Although you strike him with the rod, he will not die. You shall strike him with the rod And rescue his soul from Sheol.”
Proverbs 26:3 “A whip is for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, And a rod for the back of fools.”
Proverbs 29:15 “The rod and reproof give wisdom, But a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.”
Matthew 5:16 ““Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.”
Men we can not be lackadaisical about this calling - notice how Paul tells us how to do this -
notice to word “well” - adverb describing how one manages (specifically in this case household)
Sense - well (good) - in a good or proper or satisfactory manner or to a high standard; sometimes sarcastically so
Notice how this word is used in these passages -
Matthew 12:12 (NASB95)
“How much more valuable then is a man than a sheep! So then, it is lawful to do good on the Sabbath.”
Mark 7:9 (NASB95)
He was also saying to them, “You are experts at setting aside the commandment of God in order to keep your tradition.
John 4:17 (NASB95)
The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You have correctly said, ‘I have no husband’;
Hebrews 13:18 (NASB95)
Pray for us, for we are sure that we have a good conscience, desiring to conduct ourselves honorably in all things.
James 2:19 (NASB95)
You believe that God is one. You do well; the demons also believe, and shudder.
“Household” -
sense: family - house - a social unit living together usually consisting of family, servants, and some extended family; understood by the physical building in which a family normally resides.
He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity
(but if a man does not know how to manage his own household, how will he take care of the church of God?),
1 timothy 3:12
Deacons must be husbands of only one wife, and good managers of their children and their own households.
but in case I am delayed, I write so that you will know how one ought to conduct himself in the household of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and support of the truth.
but if any widow has children or grandchildren, they must first learn to practice piety in regard to their own family and to make some return to their parents; for this is acceptable in the sight of God.
The Lord grant mercy to the house of Onesiphorus, for he often refreshed me and was not ashamed of my chains;
Greet Prisca and Aquila, and the household of Onesiphorus.
The Puritans referred to the family household as the “little church.” This perspective is in keeping with the scriptural reasoning that if a man cannot shepherd his family, he can’t shepherd the extended family of the church.
Strauch, Alexander. Biblical Eldership: An Urgent Call to Restore Biblical Church Leadership (p. 68). Lewis & Roth Publishers. Kindle Edition.
The Call to Commitment - vs. 4b
The Call to Commitment - vs. 4b
“Children”
Sense: child - a son or daughter of any age; sometimes referred to collectively as children
“Keeping” - verb, present, active, participle, singular, accusative, masculine -
Sense: to keep (maintain) - to keep in a certain state, position, or activity
how are you doing at “keeping” things?
Budget
Vacation
Work Hours
Family Time
Payments (mortgages, car payments, ect)
Men my I plead with you to never become lazy in investing in your kids! Take every opportunity to share the gospel with them! Do not expect your kids to be better than you!
“Under Control” -
Sense for Control: subjection - the condition of having submitted to control by someone or something else
Because of the proof given by this ministry, they will glorify God for your obedience to your confession of the gospel of Christ and for the liberality of your contribution to them and to all,
But we did not yield in subjection to them for even an hour, so that the truth of the gospel would remain with you.
A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness.
He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity
3. The Call to Dignity - vs. 4
3. The Call to Dignity - vs. 4
“Dignity” - noun, genitive, singular, feminine - prepositional object
Sense: behavioral dignity - the quality of being worthy of esteem or respect; especially on account of one’s behavior
for kings and all who are in authority, so that we may lead a tranquil and quiet life in all godliness and dignity.
He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity
in all things show yourself to be an example of good deeds, with purity in doctrine, dignified,
Paul now makes the logical connection to the church in verse 5 - If he (men) can’t manage their homes then they will be unable to manage the church of God. This is a high calling Lord help us to be a biblical church!
“the church” - church; assembly
Sense: church - an orderly congregation specifically of those who trust in Jesus as the Messiah (or those who compose it)
So what?
What is your “family” portraying?
Called to manage our households
Called to be committed
Called to dignity
